BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SAY IT MAY BECOME YOUR  REALITY

STATEMENTS/EXCUSES:

1. I’m Independent Woman, I can take care of myself
2. My Momma told me not to rely on a man to take care of me.
3. I can’t find a man because I’m too picky.
4. I’m too busy that’s why I’m single
5. All the good ones are taken
6. Men don’t want to commit any more
7. A man has to make a certain amount of money to be with me
8. I like unavailable men, it’s less complicated
9. It’s hard to find a man who meets my standards
10. Men are no good

Does any of those Statements/Excuses sound familiar?

In the video below Rachel seeks help because of her obsession with a man that is not good for her. 

REALITIES:

1. Some of us have attitudes because we are angry about something that we’ve buried inside of us so we lash out at men who sabotaged the relationship.
2. The feminist movement hurt some of us because we focus too much on being competitive with men and less on how we can work together to build a better life, better community, and better world for those coming up behind us.
3. Some of our anger originated from the lack of a father, a father that was never home, or an abusive father.
4. Unresolved anger from a previous relationship, if you don’t process what went wrong, forgive yourself and him then move on the cycle will continue.
5. The statement “I don’t need a man” represents an unconscious fear you have of being in a relationship.

It’s okay to be an Independent Woman who does not need a man to take care of them; you should be able to take care of yourself.  But remember the word Independent means alone.

There is nothing wrong with being alone if that is what you want but if the real truth is that you are lonely. I know it’s hard to admit to your girlfriends that you are lonely but

I know it’s hard to admit to your girlfriends that you are lonely but there’s nothing wrong with it if it’s the truth.

Sometimes you need help seeing what you can not see and your girlfriends don’t know how to tell you.