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How To Be Alone

How to be alone

If You Don’t Spend Time Alone, You’ll Never Know Who You Really Are

Do you know How To Be Alone?

This is not something most people want to think about How to Be Alone. We live in a world that is increasingly shrinking in size.

Social media has taken over the web and we can meet almost anyone online anywhere in the world. It has literally become a way of life for many people.

There are many of you who feel alone or lonely in a world of 7 billion people, even while being surrounded by friends and family. Why?

Because authentically connecting with people is one of the most difficult things for some of us to achieve.

Yes, we participate in small talk all the time, especially through that abbreviated format of communication known as texting.

However, that doesn’t always lead to long-lasting friendships and relationships and is, at its best, superficial and brief.

NOTE: LOVE YOU BETTER means taking time out to take care of you. If you don’t love yourself who will?

When it comes to love and romance, some of us have scars from the past that haunt us, affecting our ability to be vulnerable and open to a potential mate.

Others fill their days with “work” as a great excuse for not having the time for love. The more they can keep busy, the less they have to think about it.

Yet, when we are alone in our beds for years in a row, the pain of loneliness starts to creep and depression can follow if we don’t do something about it.

With the hundreds if not thousands of websites advertising events, sites such as Meetup and Facebook, there really is no excuse for being alone; there are just too many people you can connect to in so many ways.

Once you do, you will probably find that your self-confidence will grow and you will feel better about yourself.

Here is an example of how it’s hard to be alone. 

Tips for How To Be Alone:

1. First, ask yourself why are you alone.

  • Do you want to remain alone?
  • A lot of us are alone because we will not take the time and energy to put ourselves out there in order to meet someone special.
  • If you want to meet people, you’ve got to get out of the house and away from your desk.
  • No one is going to come knocking on your door.

2. Use this time to make a deeper connection with yourself.

  • This is a great time to find out who you are, what you really want, and where you are going in your life.
  • Far too often, people chose Partners without knowing the answers to these questions, then later, when they begin knowing more about themselves, they wonder why they marry this person.
  • Be proactive and take the time to learn about yourself now.

3. Initiate the changes you want to see in your life.

  • This is also a great time for you to begin taking the steps to start that business or new career you have been putting off for years.
  • No time like the present.
  • If you want to have a home-based business, write a book, or travel the world, then do it now.
  • What are you waiting for?

4. Pay close attention to how you really think and feel about dating and getting married.

  • Most women haven’t even stopped to consider if this is a route for them; they’ve already been programmed by their family that this is what they are supposed to do.
  • If you are a woman who changes her mind a lot, for instance, if one minute you want to be in a relationship and the next minute you are not sure.
  • Perhaps, you really DON’T KNOW what you want or you have unacknowledged negative feelings surrounding dating, marriage, children, and possibly men.

5. Be honest about what you believe and how you feel about being in a relationship.

  • Going through the life journey alone is not the way Mother Nature intended it to be; however, you can still have a fulfilling life of play and adventure without commitment.
  • Plenty of people do it. They are still making those much-needed connections with others without getting tied down to one person. You can date whomever you choose.
  • You can travel the world and have fun in the process. Being alone means you can still go out with people who you find attractive and interesting.
  • Most of the time it’s better to be in a relationship before becoming physical, however, that’s only for those people who want a relationship. The choice is entirely yours.

Being alone is probably not fun for most people and if you don’t want to live this way then decided now to change it.

You do not have to settle for anything you do not truly want, but, you have to be willing to put yourself out there, which will require some energy and some risk on your part.

Life is always so much shorter than we think, so don’t be afraid to live a little and if you are alone, don’t condemn yourself by believing that you will be alone forever.

I believe that being alone is a choice, conscious or unconscious but they are both more than likely driven by fear.

The real question is, what are you afraid of?

Learning how to be alone may be hard but if you are alone now and unhappy; being in or out of a relationship should not dictate your happiness.

The real question is, what are you afraid of? Learning how to be alone may be hard but if you are alone now and unhappy; being in or out of a relationship should not dictate your happiness.