When Love Is Not Enough Because You Are Not Happy

We have all heard that old saying, “love does not conquer all” and it appears to be true when you look around at all the couples that are struggling to stay together.

We were sad to hear about it, even though we don’t even know them. To the world, they appeared to be so much in love, however appearing to be so much in love does not always equal a long-term connection, and without a strong connection, people become distant to the point of being strangers.

To stay connected with someone, compromise and QUALITY TIME has to be a priority on the menu, genuinely and continuously. Additionally, the flying rumors that Jada and Will may be splitting cause to give pause for a moment of silence (figuratively speaking).

The DISSOLUTION of a marriage is almost always a sad event, especially when there are children involved and the couple is emotionally confused about where it all went wrong. I believe in the partnership of marriage and how important it is to select the right person for YOU. Coping with the loss of a relationship can be hard.

Check out how the therapist deal with a relationship that is headed for divorce.

Tips for When LOVE is Not Enough:

1. Everyone has hidden beliefs and agreements that can create challenges in a relationship.

• Humans are BEINGS and will always have differences in beliefs and opinions on a variety of topics including religion, political views, rearing children, or money (earning, spending and saving).
• Many of those differences are deep-seated beliefs that were either given to us as children or formed through experiences or traumas.
• Unfortunately, when those beliefs become third-party in a two-party relationship, LOVE may not be enough to overcome them.
• Know when you may need to seek outside professional relationship assistance in order to discover, uncover and work through the beliefs and opinions that may be causing disruption in your relationship.
• Don’t be afraid to seek help when needed. And most important of all: COMMUNICATE.

2. Be willing to fight for what you BELIEVE.

• We live in a time where fighting for what we REALLY want is more difficult than it used to be. WHY?
• Because we have a tendency to care what other people think and/or we have this need to RIGHT no matter what it could cost us in the end.
• You have to ask yourself: Is being RIGHT more important than LOVE? So many of us have control issues and the need to be RIGHT is one of those.
• Most people don’t see this quality within them; it’s the other person’s fault: they won’t listen to me or do what I want them to do.
• Having the attitude of “it’s my way or the highway” is a quick way to destroy a relationship, regardless of how much you LOVE each other.
• Be willing to release the need to be RIGHT and see the world through the other person’s eyes.
• Be willing to MUTUALLY COMPROMISE to find a PEACEFUL solution to a nagging situation. Seek outside professional relationships to help EARLY to avoid resentment and disrespect.

3. When you’re tired of being the Other Woman or the Kept Woman.

• If you are in a LOVE relationship with a man that is not yours or is otherwise committed, then you are already behind the eight ball. This is a very stressful and hurtful situation to be in even though you may not realize it.
• What do you think is the possibility or probability that LOVE will be enough to overcome the sneaking, lying, infidelity, pregnancy, or even an STD such as Gonorrhea or HIV?
• There is no blame; it takes two to make it happen, each person making a conscious decision to participate in the relationship.
• The challenge is after it’s all over: you still have to live with the totality of your decision, your actions, and your angry emotions.
• If you find yourself in this situation, SEEK COUNSELING IMMEDIATELY.
• While it may be difficult to come to terms with what happened, make an effort to start the forgiveness process within yourself immediately.
• You must begin rebuilding your self-esteem and self-worth, reassess your personal values and consider what you honestly and authentically want out of life.
• We want BETTER for you and hope you want it for yourself as well.

We are all great seekers of LOVE; this is what we want out of life, to love and be loved. Being HUMAN gives us Free Will and the opportunity to Fight for Love or walk away from it depending on the circumstances or what is in our best interests.

Accepting LOVE into your life is a RISK because you have to be open, receptive, vulnerable, and willing to see yourself through that person’s eyes. It is a risk worth taking.