Some of us are REALLY disconnected from our lives; we actually have no idea what’s going on within our world. We tend to just go from day to day without conscious purpose, just living the life we have because we believe we have no other choice. To add to the confusion, we want to add a MAN to the equation. In most cases, this extra addition will end disastrously, leaving us wondering what happened.

When we are not paying attention to our CHOICES, our LIFESTYLE, or our APPEARANCE, but we want a man, we have a tendency to take whatever we can get. NOT A GOOD IDEA! Keep in mind these are UNCONSCIOUS behaviors, which makes them all the more detrimental. CHOICES determine the QUALITY of one’s life.

A woman’s life is equal to the sum of her choices.

So, you will continue to ATTRACT what you FEEL you are WORTHY to attract, but now is the time to realize you DESERVE so much more.

Tips for Considering Your Choices:

1. Take a look in the MIRROR and ask yourself this question: Is the life you currently have the LIFE YOU REALLY WANT? If your current life were a film, would you want to see it? If the answer is, “NO”, then NOW is NOT the time to be looking for a Leading Man.
2. Have you been doing all you can to take care of your HEALTH? If your answer is, “NO”, then would you consciously choose a man that is not taking care of his health? Also, make sure your standards for him are not higher than those for yourself. Take care of YOU FIRST.
3. Are you still dragging around old relationships? If you have just gotten out of a relationship or still haven’t gotten over a relationship regardless of how long ago it was, you are not FREE. Before getting involved with another man, make sure you have CLEARED OUT YOUR HEART, YOUR EGO, and YOUR ATTITUDE before bringing another man into your life. But, this should not take years, in your journal, write down what went wrong in that relationship. This helps you understand what you needed to learn so you can move on quickly. 
4. Do you have DESPERATE DATING behaviors? What are they? Answer the questions to see if you are a Desperate Dater. If you discover that you are, you will need to spend some time discovering why so you can’t stop repeating the behaviors that may be making your love life miserable.

Human beings are not meant to travel on this journey called life alone. A solitary life is a chosen life and is selected for many reasons. However, if you have chosen a solitary or single life out of FEAR of Commitment or Intimacy, then you are denying yourself one of life’s most precious gifts. Life IS shorter than you think; you look up and 10 years have passed you by in the blink of an eye.

Remember CHOICES are always yours to make so choose them wisely. But, if you are trying to change your life, review your past choice in any area to make sure you are not making the same one again. Present choice must be different than past one to move your life in a different direction. People are creatures of habit because there is a level of comfort knowing what will happen if make a certain decision. 

Everyone DESERVES LOVE, including you, but you must be willing to work on healing YOU before you can have a successful relationship with someone else. If you want the BEST year ever then today is the day to find out how.